LOVING MEANS LETTING GO.
Letting go... Everyone says that when I get hung up on something someone said that doesn't matter and for the first time I am going to share my advice on just how to let go.
It's a skill, it isn't easy, it takes a lot of practice.
Sometimes you need to let go in order to move on with your life, for me I really learnt to let it go when I was learning to deal with a good friend and some of things they kept doing, I had to learn to realise that it was just their personality and they weren't doing it deliberately it helped me relax, it helped me move on. Besides it is easier to let go of something human then something heroic so accept things for what they really are at face value.
Letting go actually helps you feel less pain, it actually helps you feel better about yourself and others, it gives you the opportunity to continue with your life, and drastically decrease the drama and it is all part of my new spiritual beliefs. We hold on to problems because it gives us a sense of identity another reason why we hold on to our pain, because we think it makes us who we are, so we play past mistakes over and over again and we let those mistakes shape our actions in the present. Clinging to frustration and worries as if it gives us power, holding stress in our mind and bodies can be harmful and worst is we accept that stress instead of trying to free ourselves from the chains of it. Too many people don't know how relax and be spiritually free. Im not saying join a hippie convent and live in a mini bus, Im saying learn to love life, because that is something being spiritually free can offer you, the ability to enjoy your own life more, and deal with the real important feelings.
Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful service.
The most important thing to do is to keep positive, and understand that you are choosing to hold on to the stress. Here are someways to completely let go of the stress and free your mind up of more important things.
* Just do it, learn a new skill instead of dwelling on those never mastered.
* See the root cause as a blessing in disguise, turn everything around to make it a positive, changing your perception.
* Cry out your pain, once, just once, let yourself feel the emotions, crying releases those negative feelings and harmful chemicals.
* Channel your discontent in an immediate positive action.
* Let meditation bring you back to the present moment, I think I have said this before but meditation is the key to a stress free life, its not about hiding away your emotions, its about letting the built up emotions ease out of your body.
* Make a list of your accomplishments and add to them. Just let the list grow longer and longer.
* Visualise a box labelled expectations and every time you dwell on things, imagine putting them in that box.
* Physical activity. Enough said.
* Focus all your energy on things you can actually control.
* Create a blog to express your feelings through.
* Completely feel your feelings.
* Give yourself time to rant, whether that be in you head, to a friend or on a blog.
* Remember anger hurts you more then the person who actually made you angry.
* Visualise those bad feelings seeping out of you.
* Even express your anger to the person that displeased you. Communication helps you move on.
* Take responsibility for what you could have done differently instead of what someone else did wrong.
* Put yourself in their shoes, we all make mistakes, we are all still learning, and we will all spend the rest of our lives learning.
* Metaphorically throw the emotions away.
* Use a stress ball.
* Wear a rubber band on your wrist and flick it when you get negative emotions, associating your brain with physical brain will help stop it.
* You only have three options, remove yourself from the situation, change it, accept it.
* Identify what the negative experience taught you.
* Write down everything you want to express in a letter.
* Remember both the good and the bad.
* Create a place the represents the present you
* Reward yourself with small acts of pleasure.
* Think logically instead of emotionally.
* Using deep breathing techniques, to let go of unwanted emotions.
* Replace your thoughts.
* Imagine your life ten years from now.
* Organise your space.
* Laugh it out.
Letting go of your emotions, can often seem daunting, moving on with your life tiresome, because it is easier to continue with things the way they are then just completely change your world, sometimes your world has to be uprooted before you find out who you are suppose to be, before you find internal happiness.
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